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All Jews know about this site while a good amount have actually used it at one point. As most Jews are, they are persuaded by some family member, to sign-up so that he/she could be one of the success stories highlighted on JDate.

My JDate story starts more years ago than I would like to admit (6) when both my mom and sister suggested I sign up. Off the bat, I started talking to someone and then hung out with her a few times. It never turned into anything, but it was definitely a good start. That success was few and far between, even though oddly enough, I ended up in 3 relationships. My first one lasted the longest at 5 months, but as we all know, was an uphill battle from the start.

3 relationships sounds great, I know, but I was hoping for a relationship that would never end. Did I really, truly believe that would happen? I do not know. However, I do know that I hoped. A lot. 

JDate is a site that most people love to hate, including myself. We all love to complain that we can’t find anyone, the people on there are horrible and the site in general sucks. Yet, we continue to visit the site simply because we are hoping that one day, the person of our dreams will magically appear on the other side. I checked daily for this exact reason. Then I paid for the site thinking that might help my chances with the ladies. It didn’t and instead I only complained louder and visited more.

I live in Cleveland, Ohio, and unbeknownst to me, the population of young Jewish ladies is almost non-existent. Sure, Cleveland is known for its overall Jewish population but I guess the young ladies are already dating someone or have real social skills so they do not need to use the Internet and JDate. Now if I was living in New York, well, then I would have plenty of nice people to choose from but I don’t and I am not moving anytime soon. (Did you know that outside of Israel, NY has the largest Jewish population? Pretty interesting if I do say so myself.)

These facts have hindered my search and have made me realize that I need to get out of the digital world and into the real world. I need to stop visiting the site over and over just hoping that someone new will sign-up and magically fall for me. I need to realize that dating someone from outside Ohio is probably not the best idea. Long distance relationships can work, but do I really want to get into one? No.

I have paid for JDate for 3 months and what have I to show for it? Wasted money and wasted time in addition to a dent in my ego. Did I really need to pay for this to happen? Nah, there are many other free options for that.

Therefore, I have decided that JDate, I am so over you. You haven’t worked for me and you won’t work for me. I no longer need you and your addicting site. I have already cancelled my paid subscription and once that expires, I will take down my profile. It is time for me to stop using the Internet and JDate as a crutch in my hunt to find Mrs. Kearns. She will find me or I will find her, eventually, and the computer will not have played a role in it at all.

Good luck to me!

P.S. Any single Jewish girls reading this, feel free to leave a comment below. I would love to take you out on a date…;)

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